I’m sorry, but at this time in my life, this qualifies as a “trivial thing.” If you want to have a lengthy discussion about the origin of the universe, see Number 1. If you can’t get along with us, that’s most likely your problem.
We love and accept people of ALL races, cultures, spiritual/non-spiritual views, sexual orientation/identity, etc. We are a non-judgmental, liberal, Christian family. You don’t agree with how I live my life.If you can’t encourage me, laugh with me, chat with me, tell me, “Your home looks beautiful, and your wrinkles seem to be fading,” help me entertain a 3-year-old, OR just sit with me, even once every 2 years when our schedules line up (because I’m totally okay with that!), why are we friends? You are not adding any value to my life.īeing a parent and spouse is hard.Not out of anger, not out of love, not to inform or help, but only to be hurtful or criticize. Your problems and issues are too big for me to manage. And, for every way in which I lack, I make up for it with a love for my family that could move mountains.Īs in, you dedicate much of your time and energy to spreading hurt and anger, and I refuse to be a target. I won’t allow you to judge me or my parenting.īecause I’m hard enough on myself.To debate who is right or wrong about trivial things. I may not dismiss someone forever, but I certainly won’t spend more time with them and reward their negative behavior in my life right now, because:įor drama, for hatred, for mean words. I’ve simply learned to control when and how I do that. I was raised to forgive, to mend friendships, to try to understand others’ points of view, to empathize. While avoiding certain acquaintances was often convenient and temporarily preserved my sanity, after becoming a mom, it became absolutely necessary to completely remove certain people from my life. Suddenly, “You are dismissed,” became my silent war cry. It was difficult at first, but I soon noticed how bright my life was without that storm cloud over it, without the possibility of this person diving into my day at any moment and spreading negativity. I went home and ended a lifelong relationship with the main offender.